Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Reminder

Please read the posting "A 10-Day Assignment for You" below, and please help by responding.

4 comments:

Josh M. said...

What do you define as taking shidduchim "One at a Time"?

ProfK said...

Josh,

First, no lists of any kind would be used. This is more a "male" thing then a "female" thing, although a few parents of girls also use lists. When you have a list of girls who would go out with you then how do you concentrate on the girl who you are dating at this moment? There is a mental attitude that you need to see the whole list so as not to be mistaken in your final choice. Psychologically this is a bad thing.

"One at a Time" means you date a girl as if she were the "only" girl. You spend more time in trying to figure out if there could be something between you. You don't come home from a date, casually throw out "there was no chemistry" and then say "next," because you have no list to assure you that there is a next.

"One at a Time" levels the playing field for males and females as regards shidduchim. It creates a better dating attitude. It forces people to concentrate on the actual purpose for dating rather than on the process itself. It removes the "shopper" mentality from those looking for a shidduch. And those are just the obvious benefits.

Josh M. said...

OK, makes sense.

Anonymous said...

One response I got:
"Is the tedium of work getting to you?"
And then, "I think any time you call a guy you're automatically on a list. Whether it's two people long or 200, there's no avoiding it."