What's Love got to do with It?

It's kind of strange now that I think about it but on all the blogs that have discussed shidduchim I've never seen the "L" word raised--you know, love. No one seems to be saying I want a boy/girl that I will be able to love. With so much else going on when trying to find a shidduch lots of people ask "What's love got to do with it?"

Rabbanim would not consider Broadway musicals as proper vehicles of instruction for singles in the shidduch parsha, but there is a song that seems to fit right into what goes on today. Without further ado, from the musical Fiddler on the Roof, the song entitled "Do you love me?"

(Tevye)"Golde, I have decided to give Perchik permission to become engaged to our daughter, Hodel."
(Golde)"What??? He's poor! He has nothing, absolutely nothing!"
(Tevye)"He's a good man, Golde. I like him. And what's more important, Hodel likes him. Hodel loves him. So what can we do? It's a new world... A new world. Love.
Golde..."Do you love me?
(Golde)Do I what?
(Tevye)Do you love me?
(Golde)Do I love you?
With our daughters getting married
And this trouble in the town
You're upset, you're worn out
Go inside, go lie down!
Maybe it's indigestion
(Tevye)"Golde I'm asking you a question..."Do you love me?
(Golde)You're a fool
(Tevye)"I know..."But do you love me?
(Golde)Do I love you?
For twenty-five years I've washed your clothes
Cooked your meals,
cleaned your house
Given you children,
milked the cow
After twenty-five years,
why talk about love right now?
(Tevye)Golde,
The first time I met you
Was on our wedding day
I was scared
(Golde)I was shy
(Tevye)I was nervous
(Golde)So was I
(Tevye)But my father and my mother
Said we'd learn to love each other
And now I'm asking,
Golde, Do you love me?
(Golde)I'm your wife
(Tevye)"I know..."But do you love me?
(Golde)Do I love him?
For twenty-five years I've lived with him
Fought with him,
starved with him
Twenty-five years my bed is his
If that's not love, what is?
(Tevye)Then you love me?
(Golde)I suppose I do
(Tevye)And I suppose I love you too
(Both)It doesn't change a thing
But even so
After twenty-five years
It's nice to know.

May I suggest that waiting 25 years to ask and answer this question might be just a tad excessive.