tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post6948143377000344282..comments2024-02-23T04:39:49.329-05:00Comments on Conversations in Klal: The Yom Tov is for Families ConundrumProfKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17954446826821665314noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-10503386624323194042010-09-28T23:52:02.957-04:002010-09-28T23:52:02.957-04:00And then there are those of us whose families are ...And then there are those of us whose families are for various reasons unavailable for yontif- not religious, not present in our lives, otherwise occupied... Sometimes I get very jealous of people who have the option of that debate. In my family, it's pretty obvious: if I'm going to see my parents over yontif, they're coming to me.Maya Resnikoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00251303621825787312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-56973445223195669842010-09-21T16:18:24.780-04:002010-09-21T16:18:24.780-04:00When all your kids are married and live in differe...When all your kids are married and live in different places that all require traveling well more then a few hours, planning who will go where for yom tov requires the skills of an international negotiator. Add in 4 sets of mechutonim who also have a claim on the kids, and who have other mechutonim with their own schedules. Much as we'd love to have all or at least some of the kids for yom tov, we've basically decided to save our getting together times for other times of the year when the competition and franticness isn't there. We share meals over yom tov with friends in the neighborhood who are in the same position we are.Raenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-63289427488742616332010-09-21T13:10:39.890-04:002010-09-21T13:10:39.890-04:00I use to say that I plan on going to our parents u...I use to say that I plan on going to our parents until our kids are old enough for us to go to them. But now we no longer go away for all the holidays, and if we do we Re just as likely to go to friendsAbba's Rantingshttp://Abbasrantings.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-26660876917287969362010-09-21T09:36:54.501-04:002010-09-21T09:36:54.501-04:00It is very hard for anyone (particularly with kids...It is very hard for anyone (particularly with kids) to spend more than a few nights in the home of someone you didn't grow up living with. It's even harder if space is limited. A simple solution is to not go for the whole week. We have gotten around that problem when visiting somewhere that requires a flight (and therefore going for only 2 or 3 nights doesn't seem right or worth it) by breaking up the week by staying three nights at a hotel. - i.e. two nights at the relatives, three nights at a hotel, and the last two nights back at the relatives. I think they appreciate the break too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-39869445409061934002010-09-21T09:06:48.799-04:002010-09-21T09:06:48.799-04:00I can take my in laws in small doses and keep ever...I can take my in laws in small doses and keep everything calm. But a week locked up together results in some fireworks somewhere during the week. Not worth the possible damage to the family relations I want for my kids. Even 2-3 days is pushing it. So yeah, my fil understands that his son wants to daven in his own shul and that's our reason for staying home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-13769102278440329102010-09-21T08:05:19.898-04:002010-09-21T08:05:19.898-04:00Don't forget the issue of do we go to her pare...Don't forget the issue of do we go to her parents or to his. Wanting to daven in one's own shul is a tactful way to avoid all these issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com