tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post4839206908924881101..comments2024-02-23T04:39:49.329-05:00Comments on Conversations in Klal: What is Marriage?ProfKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17954446826821665314noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-72694953830055997382008-03-11T15:50:00.000-04:002008-03-11T15:50:00.000-04:00When my oldest daughter started thinking about shi...When my oldest daughter started thinking about shidduchim she asked me what you need to have a good marriage. I answered "A husband. If you have one of those you can then the two of you make whatever kind of marriage you want." And then she rolled up her eyes and said to me that some columnist from one of the jewish publications said X and gave me the whole spiel. It almost makes me sorry we ever taught her to read.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-60515780106231885932008-03-11T14:07:00.000-04:002008-03-11T14:07:00.000-04:00Always bothers me when a girl on a date announces ...Always bothers me when a girl on a date announces which places are the only places she will live when married, which schools she is going to send her future kids to and what hashkafas will be kept in her future home. And does her future husband have nothing to say about any of this? One girl said no to another date because I wasn't enthused about living in Brooklyn when I get married. This was supposed to say something about my frumkeit. I had a lucky escape there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-72920781572739201512008-03-11T07:56:00.000-04:002008-03-11T07:56:00.000-04:00I'm a twin and she and I married very different ty...I'm a twin and she and I married very different types of men and have different marriages. People often comment that they are surprised by that. Like there was one pattern we were supposed to follow twins especially. We were lucky that our parents encouraged us to be individuals not just one half of a pair.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-33726621673853369962008-03-11T01:14:00.000-04:002008-03-11T01:14:00.000-04:00If some people grow up in a system which tries to ...If some people grow up in a system which tries to make them 'clones' or 'carbon copies' of others in certain important ways, is it surprising that they later think that their marriage should be a clone or copy of another as well ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com