tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post7011213820207013635..comments2024-02-23T04:39:49.329-05:00Comments on Conversations in Klal: A Word on ResumesProfKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17954446826821665314noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-56881943298541156862011-05-02T16:58:16.384-04:002011-05-02T16:58:16.384-04:00Well, evaluating arranged marriages in business-li...Well, evaluating arranged marriages in business-like terms is the historical norm, not the exception.<br /><br />The exception was that there was a period of time when American Orthodox Jewry was so small, endangered, and scatter shot that the kids re-wrote the rules and became more American, they adopted the new fangled American Dating.<br /><br />Choosing to switch back to the business like terms is a mistake, in my opinion, but I find it ironic that you know that this is the community that you are in, raise your children in it, and then wonder why it is what it is.Miami Alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02977503720972852329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-20629644056176573102011-05-02T09:05:12.288-04:002011-05-02T09:05:12.288-04:00Abba you're right that the kesubah is a very b...Abba you're right that the kesubah is a very businesslike document and that the whole idea of using a shadchan smells like buying and selling. But for a good few decades the business aspect at least when it came to dating was understated or disappeared. <br /><br />Most of my generation did not feel like cattle at market when we dated. There were no resumes and no crazy weeks of investigating. We met, we dated, we married and all without the crazy rules in place today. It was mostly the same for my kids but it isn't for my grandkids. We've pushed things beyond normal or needed today. I'm surprised that anyone gets married given the system we think we have to follow.Yaakovnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-14827290499538456202011-05-02T07:52:45.239-04:002011-05-02T07:52:45.239-04:00historically shidduchim/marriage was essentially a...historically shidduchim/marriage was essentially a business arrangement. (and contrary to popular opinion there is absolutely nothing romantic about the kesubah and i'm not sure why people like to hang it in their dining rooms)<br /><br />in any case, it's not the loshon of "shidduch resume" that's a problem, but rather the concept.Abba's Rantingshttp://abbasrantings.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com