tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post5250994140398151416..comments2024-02-23T04:39:49.329-05:00Comments on Conversations in Klal: If There Were No Weddings What Would We Have to Talk About?ProfKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17954446826821665314noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-55047107252696262782008-02-20T09:52:00.000-05:002008-02-20T09:52:00.000-05:00I think it is to contrast the habit some have of p...I think it is to contrast the habit some have of putting out less seats then the number of positive responses on the return card. It's done to counter the people that say they are coming and then either don't show up or leave right after the chupahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-4212691922375687102008-02-20T04:35:00.000-05:002008-02-20T04:35:00.000-05:00Speaking as a Londoner, I have not seen that state...Speaking as a Londoner, I have not seen that statement on any UK wedding invitations in recent years. However, given that the norm for British weddings is to have a catered reception after the chuppah, which is then followed by a formal dinner, generally for a smaller number of invitees, this may be saying that you should not be looking for a separate dinner invitation card - the overall invitation is for the whole event. <BR/>British weddings have no 'smorgasboard' prior to the chuppah, so the reception then offers an opportunity for the family pictures to be taken and there is general chatting and mazel-toving with all those who were at the chuppah.<BR/>Hope this clarifies matters.<BR/>Anon613-LondonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-53174376548319788742008-02-19T22:36:00.000-05:002008-02-19T22:36:00.000-05:00d--They are both Brooklyn families and I'm pretty ...d--They are both Brooklyn families and I'm pretty sure there is no British background there.<BR/><BR/>Michelle--I think you may have given me a plausible answer. I guess it's a polite way to tell those just dropping in for the dancing that they won't be expected to starve to death while the rest of us are eating.<BR/><BR/>Still, this is a confusing way of trying to give information on an invitation.ProfKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17954446826821665314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-3672634312371289342008-02-19T22:26:00.000-05:002008-02-19T22:26:00.000-05:00What I got from this, and the exchange in the Yate...What I got from this, and the exchange in the Yated, is basically that people who come to be Misameach the chatan and kallah don't have anything to do between dances, so they plan to feed everyone. Maybe they'll have tables for people who are "stopping by," but not of the same caliber of those invited with a response card. <BR/>This way nobody feels like a shnuk while their friends are chowing down and they're waiting for the next dance. <BR/>Then just send resp. cards to everyone, huh? That's why I assume it'll be a little less formal seating for those people. <BR/>sMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07488697438570382504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-24889277932471917762008-02-19T21:39:00.000-05:002008-02-19T21:39:00.000-05:00*It might mean*It might meanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-92135853646249353632008-02-19T19:56:00.000-05:002008-02-19T19:56:00.000-05:00It does seem sort of baffling.But I think I detect...It does seem sort of baffling.<BR/><BR/>But I think I detected a clue that might help.<BR/><BR/>Note the spelling used - honoured - not honored. That is a British spelling. So I would guess that it is a UK or possibly continental/commonwealth thing.<BR/><BR/>At one time there were spelling reforms in the USA (there was a spelling reform association) which changed some spellings, e.g. removing the letter u from words like color and honor. The UK didn't go along with it.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, if so, asking someone from the UK might garner an explanation.<BR/><BR/>I might mean that they are assigned (specific) seats, in other words that the seating is not choose/grab a seat for yourself.<BR/><BR/>Another thing which might help understand this is that I believe in the UK they have a separation of time and place between chupah and dinner. It might be related to that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-15559365345386992692008-02-19T16:11:00.000-05:002008-02-19T16:11:00.000-05:00Seems the proper thing to do would only be to incl...Seems the proper thing to do would only be to include a meal response card for those invited to the seudah and not print such on an invitation. Seems tacky. But, then again, an invitation could be construed as an invitation to everything. <BR/><BR/>Oy! What a mess.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2096776708897685863.post-2037281605617412422008-02-19T14:15:00.000-05:002008-02-19T14:15:00.000-05:00Wonder if it's the same wedding. My parents got a...Wonder if it's the same wedding. My parents got an invitation like that but without the response card. My dad says they are invited to the dinner and my mom says she isn't sure about that. Kind of embarrasing to have to call and ask what you were invited to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com